![]() ![]() ![]() Suddenly, I had a language to describe what had been indescribable before. Her explanation of the 5 Blueprints - the Energetic, Sensual, Sexual, Kinky and Shapeshifter - made me feel seen, heard and understood. Though we’re very different people, in Jaiya’s work, I found the most holistic sex program I’ve ever come across. What is pleasure? What does that mean to me? And so began a decade of reading books, attending workshops, taking courses, working with trauma practitioners and doing everything I had the courage, capacity and funds to do.Īfter wading through my resistance, I signed up for The Erotic Blueprints™ Breakthrough course, created by my mentor Jaiya, which was so transformational that I quit my job, redesigned my life and got certified through her coaching program. And even though I huffed and I puffed, and I judged, I was also curious. Yet this word kept making its way to me: pleasure. I was caught up in the hustle and grind, just trying to survive, and feeling like I was always behind, juuuuuuuust about to drown if I didn’t keep moving. This practice didn’t come easily or naturally to me. Within my studies and spirituality, I relate to eros as a priestess or sacred devotee, meaning that to me, practicing and playing with erotic energy is a full-bodied prayer, a blessing, an offering, a relationship with the pulse of life that imbues all. It is energy to breathe into, and by swimming deeper into the sensation, it moves and transforms into peace, acceptance, or bliss. To me, arousal is not just sexual stimulation arousal can be anger, tension or anxiety. I like to think of the erotic arts as how we practice presence through actions that add to our aliveness. To me, sexual energy is life force energy - the same energy I call on when I want to create something, connect with my beloved or grieve. It is the heartbeat of the earth, the web of relationships that make life possible. Eros is the rain quenching the thirst of the soil. Eros is the relationship between a bee, legs loaded with pollen, belly full of nectar, and the flowers that call to her. Take Jaiya’s Erotic Blueprint Breakthrough Quiz here to find out which best fits you.According to dusty dictionaries and their online archives, the erotic is “of, devoted to, or tending to arouse sexual love or desire.” That definition is incomplete in my opinion. If you have this blueprint you might just be sexually adventurous, but for some it comes about through appeasing a partner’s wants instead of your own, which should be worked on. Shapeshifter: You get off on all of the above, and are considered ‘creative’ in the bedroom.Jaiya recommends openness for those with this blueprint, as shame around these fantasies can lead to suppressing deeper desires. ![]() Kinky: Taboo is what turns you on, whether that’s BDSM or another ‘niche’ fantasy.While those with this blueprint can see sex simply as something fun to do, they should take care not to race to the finish. Sexual: You don’t need much foreplay or romance to get in the mood, preferring a ‘let’s get down to business’ approach.Because environment is important to people with this blueprint, they can also feel tense and lose arousal if this isn’t right. Sensual: You enjoy your five senses being stimulated, and respond well to things like food play and relaxing music.Foreplay is usually key for someone with this blueprint. Energetic: You like the anticipation and teasing aspect of sex best, and can be turned off if you progress to touching too quickly.These questions include the reasons you have sex, the music you’d prefer while doing the deed, and how you fantasise about sex.Īlthough most people have unique and differing tastes in the bedroom, someone’s primary blueprint type should give them a deeper insight into their sexual superpowers (the easiest path to arousal) and shadow aspects (turn offs that can be avoided or worked on). Jaiya’s theory matches a person’s desires with one of five ‘primary erotic blueprint types’ using a series of questions. While some of you might be rolling your eyes at orgasming through ‘energy’, there’s merit in learning your erotic blueprint and what makes you tick. ![]()
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